How We Be Adult
It seems as though it should be obvious to us all when adult dating how to act like an adult…but it surely isn’t. Spinning our wheels over some new guy or girl, emailing like a mad person, shooting out pictures, missives and come-on’s to try and get some to come to us, we certainly can get tripped-up in the wacky world of adult dating. For every www.sexsearch.com or Facebook where the dating is easy and the people even easier, we can get wrapped-up, run aground on our perspective and act like kids, in the worse sense.
Here’s how to keep your shit together and stay acting like an adult…
1.) Be humble. A site like sexsearch has millions of people on it, Yahoo Chat sees a huge population that shifts and morphs constantly. Do you really think you rate at all in the sea of single people or marrieds cheating? Take a breath and don’t act like the petulant 4-year old who assumes the world revolves around them.
2.) Don’t be a nudge. If you contact someone and you don’t hear back-after a considered effort and maybe a few tries-let…it…go. Think about how busy you are on any one given day. Sometimes you don’t have the time or the energy to get back to the person who you might even find attractive. The simple fact of the matter is that we fall through the cracks all the time with one another and hitting a person over and over for a Facebook friend invite or emailing with no let up is a great way to get yourself ignored for good.
3.) Try to determine what you’re after. Don’t act like a flighty 13-year old girl with her first crush or young boy playing army, then Cowboys-and-Indians, then baseball, all in a five minute period! It’s best to know what you’re after when getting into adult dating and while sites like sexsearch might present a host of possibilities you have either never tried or considered, you might do well to log-on with some sort of an idea in mind of what kind of adult dating you might get into and who you want to get into it with.
4.) Keep on, keeping on. Far from being a nudge, you do have to be-in-it-to-win-it when it comes to online adult dating. The reason sites like Facebook and sexsearch are so popular is as much the amount of people who log-on as it is how consistent they keep on keeping on with their dating sites.
There is no accounting for how hurt we might get over a romance or how giddy we can act when finding someone we really care for, but truly we need to check our childlike ways at the door of a dating site, but not our child like wonder, when adult dating.